Hello friends!

Since I do have a few subscribers (I love you all), I thought I’d let you know I haven’t completely abandoned this blog. I still have SO much to share, and I have actually started constructing a short story that I will publish in three separate parts. I recently found that I have a knack for creative writing, versus just writing about my feelings so I’m pretty stoked on it. Aside from that, I have been insanely busy, but this time I feel like I am handling everything with ease.

I have been feeling much better lately. Everything seems clearer, and I haven’t been so quick to overwhelm. My sense of self is strong, and to be honest–instead of caring what others think (especially when it comes to what I have to say) I have been doubling-down on who I am. It feels good to be secure. Maybe some severely misplaced confidence? Who knows! (lol)

Regardless I will put fourth my best effort to welcome anything that comes my way with equanimity.

Theres one thought I wanted to share today that I posted on my Threads: I think expecting someone (or yourself) to show up to a relationship “healed” is not realistic. The state of being healed from trauma and guilt does not exist. Healing is a journey, with no destination. For those who are brave enough to embark on the journey of healing will experience different states of consciousness and sense of self. So with that being said, one cannot demand a partner to show up healed. Of course there a the few who have not been deeply impacted by trauma, and thats okay too. But let’s face it, most of us have.

I keep hearing people say “he/she needs to heal” “go heal before dating”. I almost feel as if the term healing is starting to become overused and almost cliche. What some may not realize is that trauma/shame/guilt lives within us. Scars that are etched on our being–a permanent imprint that will never go away. But that’s okay. These scars become an issue when we start to inflict the pain we feel onto others (aka treat people like shit). So if someone you’re dating is treating you like crap (lying, cheating, manipulating, being condescending), it’s not that the need to go heal. They need to address whatever they and their ego have been avoiding.

Love is really the answer. Every experience we’ve had (good and bad), everyone we’ve met, loved, despised, every joyus thought we’ve expressed, or hateful words we’ve muttered to ourselves–lives within us. Forgetting or choosing to ignore what makes up our being is not the way to live. In fact, ignoring everything, failing to explore who we are along with all of the good and bad will only show up in other areas of your life at some point or another. The answer will always be love, and to make friends with the trauma/guilt/shame/grief. Love all of those parts of yourself. There is no reason in this world to neglect and deny yourself of such a precious gift. Showing up with love, will change everything.

Then find a partner who is also trying to love him/herself. The game changes when two people who are dedicated to discovering their capacity for love choose each other. I don’t want to tell people how to date. However, I will say–choose the kind one. The one that sees that bad in you, and loves it as much as you do.

Always with love,

Jade